The Toddler, His Toy and a New Skill

Sometimes we need to step out of our routine. In other times we need a ‘do-over’. Remember those? We misstepped during a board or sports game and asked the other participants for a ‘do-over’. Usually they granted our request because each player knew that if they granted you the opportunity to replay your turn, you would likely accord them the same courtesy.  How often do we see ourselves relying on the same thought process to get out of a difficult situation? Are we able to see the big picture to fully assess the circumstances we now find ourselves? Do we take the time to learn a new way to look at a difficult situation? Do we ask others for help? Do we watch as well as listen when the help is offered?

Introducing a new client to the collaborative process is to demonstrate a new way to find creative, perhaps novel solutions to what is likely a new set of circumstances for the client. A collaborative practitioner can show how a parenting plan can be custom tailored, how private matters can remain out of the public eye, and how literally stepping in a new direction can encourage new attitudes to take hold.

The little toddler did not have ability to see that he was in a new situation, nor the experience to recall a quick solution to his predicament. The guidance of a trusted ally with an outside perspective was calmly able to demonstrate a simple solution. The toddler, while keeping his eye on what mattered most to him, was able move from a difficult place to a place of familiarity.

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